In the interest of full disclosure, and this is slightly embarrassing to admit, I punched my ex-husband shortly after we separated. The details aren’t important and basically it happened like it usually does: I got mad and sad and frustrated and hopeless. I tried to control these feelings and act like I was doing alright. One day, I went looking for trouble in the form of yelling at my ex, knowing full-well he was with his new girlfriend. One thing led to another, which led to even more frustration, and without thinking I punched my ex in the face.

I am not proud of what I did and I do not condone violence of any kind (unless you are protecting yourself). But I would like to use my horrible behavior to encourage you to not bottle up your feelings during your divorce to the point that you explode and haul off and punch your ex or do some other violent thing that you will regret.

Keeping your anger and pain under control is easier said than done. On good days, you could just have a cup of tea and talk it out with a friend. But there are some days when nothing less than punching your ex will do and you need something a bit more effective to prevent you from following through. So, here are 10 things to do besides punching your ex in the face.